Silence is a virtue; keeping quiet is wisdom. It takes two years to learn to speak, but a lifetime to learn to keep quiet.
A truly smart woman always knows what to say and what not to say. She is always elegant in her words and actions.
Here are the 4 things that smart women never reveal to outsiders, and the less they say, the more blessed they are.
Don’t Talk About Your Family’s Wealth
As Adler said in “Inferiority and Transcendence,” “Boasting is essentially a sign of inferiority.” The more you boast, the more you lack.
When a woman starts bragging about her family’s wealth and showing off her superiority, it’s often the beginning of trouble. The more you show off your wealth, the faster your money will disappear.
It’s human nature to be jealous: people can accept strangers’ success, but they find it hard to tolerate their friends’ excellence. Boasting easily arouses jealousy and invites trouble.
Real rich people never show off; they know how to be humble and low-key, avoiding negative people and things that drain their energy, and that’s how they keep their wealth flowing.
Don’t Talk About Your Marital Conflicts
It’s normal for couples to have conflicts, even with their parents.
But smart women won’t go around telling outsiders about their marital issues, complaining to others, or seeking judgment from others. This often escalates the conflict.
What was originally a small issue between the couple becomes a big problem because of outsiders’ involvement and emotional expression, making it hard to solve.
Marriage requires joint effort from both parties. Nobody is perfect, and everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Focus on the good things your partner does, and work together to make your life better.
“Choosing the one you love is easy, but loving the one you choose is what brings happiness.”
Don’t Reveal Your Secrets and Weaknesses
Everyone has some secrets, whether it’s a past hurt, regret, or mistake.
Smart women won’t easily reveal their secrets because they know that trust must be earned, and keeping quiet is self-protection.
Some people even use their secrets to gain others’ trust and get close to them. But once the relationship breaks, this becomes a weakness that others can exploit.
Don’t use your kindness to test others’ character. When you share your secrets with the wind, don’t blame the wind for spreading them.
Don’t Complain Too Much
Words have energy, and emotions are contagious. When you constantly complain to others, you only attract more negativity.
Family and friends may comfort you once or twice, but if you keep complaining, nobody will want to listen, and you’ll become an emotional trash can.
Life is full of disappointments, but smart women have long learned to let go of complaints because they solve no problems and only lead to negative emotions.
People prefer those who are optimistic, solution-oriented, and radiant with positive energy.
A woman who can swallow her complaints, put up with her frustration, and maintain a grand vision will live a life that is vast and free.
In good times, don’t boast; in bad times, keep quiet, and always keep your mouth shut: no bragging, no showing off, no arrogance—that’s how you keep your blessings.