“The most charming time in life is when you don’t care about what others think or say about you and your life.”
“Not caring about others’ opinions or judgments, not caring about your own existence, and always maintaining your own rhythm and pace—this is the source of a relaxed and carefree life.”
Here are the 3 relaxed traits a woman should have to live a good life:
The Power of Not Caring
We’re taught to be disciplined, follow rules, and be self-controlled, but this can also be a burden, making us too concerned about what others think, always tense and never relaxed.
In your twenties, you often feel unhappy and lost, nervous and constrained. Worried about not being liked, afraid others won’t think you’re good enough, anxious about the future.
But by your thirties, you start to develop a relaxed attitude, becoming more confident, self-accepting, and carefree, slowly letting go of your obsession with what others think.
How do you stop caring? Lower your expectations, look inward, and reduce your reliance on others. Don’t worry too much about the outcome; just enjoy the process. Listen less to external noise and focus on your goals.
Sometimes, the more you don’t care, the better the outcome. The more you try to control, the worse it gets.
Allowing Everything to Happen
A woman with a relaxed attitude allows everything to happen:
She allows the people she loves to not love her back, her work to be difficult, people to gossip behind her back, herself to make mistakes, and things to not go as planned.
If you don’t allow these things, you’re fighting yourself, causing internal conflict. Remember: what you resist persists; what you accept dissolves.
Remember, everything that happens is for your good. Difficulties will eventually turn into achievements. When you’re going through a tough time, you’ll often encounter obstacles, but that’s when you can reflect on yourself and your surroundings.
So, no matter what happens, don’t complain or get tangled up; accept it calmly, be grateful, and know that what you’ve lost will come back in another form.
Keeping Your Own Rhythm
“Ultimately, everyone returns to themselves. The more you’re yourself, the more people will appreciate you.”
It’s your unique traits, preferences, and experiences that make you who you are today.
Maybe in the eyes of the world, she’s not good enough, but she’s unique! That’s your ‘core’.
When you find your unique strengths and are confident, you’ll shine from the inside out. When you’re doing what you want, you’ll be full of energy.
But when you’re not confident, you’ll struggle. You need to slow down, focus on yourself, and find your rhythm.
The essence of a relaxed attitude is being with your true self. The simpler and more carefree you seem, the more profound your experiences and accumulated wisdom.
So, don’t try too hard to be relaxed; just do what you need to do, enjoy the journey, and time will bring you surprises.
Life is meant to be experienced, not performed perfectly. The best person to rely on is yourself, so be kind to yourself, and you’ll never be disappointed.