Everyone in life is connected to others in some way.
“Friendship exists in everyone’s life. If someone loses their friends, they might not be able to survive in this world.”
But relationships, like hedgehogs huddled together for warmth in winter, are tricky. Too far apart, and you can’t feel the warmth. Too close, and you’ll hurt each other.
To keep relationships healthy, you need to know your limits. Without them, even the best relationships can become strained.
To keep relationships strong, you need to watch what you say, guard your heart, and know your boundaries. There are many problems in life that you can’t fix.
Smart people avoid these three things, no matter how close they are to someone:
Don’t Get Involved in Someone Else’s Love Life
When you mature, you learn not to get involved in someone else’s love life.
Love can’t be explained, and you can’t judge right or wrong.
Only the two people involved know what’s really going on, and only they can decide what happens next.
So when your friend tells you everything, you can just be there for them, listen, and support their choices.
Don’t say too much, don’t tell them what to do, and don’t interfere in their life too much.
Because what you say might not be right. Different perspectives lead to different outcomes.
If you tell your friend to break up, and they get back together, they’ll probably resent you.
If you encourage them to stay together, and things get worse, they’ll feel like they made the wrong decision because of you, and they won’t be happy.
When you’re friends with someone, keep your boundaries. Do your part, but don’t say anything extra.
Time goes on. When your friend has relationship problems, and you don’t know what will happen, the best thing to do is to say nothing and mind your own business.
Not getting involved in your friend’s love life keeps things respectful and gives their relationship space to grow.
Don’t Gossip About Someone Else’s Family Problems
When you’re around other people, you need to know your limits. No matter how close you are, don’t talk about someone else’s family problems.
Because complicated family problems get more complicated when too many people are involved.
Family conflicts are often messy and involve many people. When someone is angry, they might say things or do things they don’t mean.
You might see things clearly as an outsider, but the people involved might not understand.
Every family has its own problems, and everyone is connected by blood. Especially when a couple is fighting, you should find an excuse to leave.
If you help, you might end up taking the blame for everything. The couple might unite against you, and you’ll be the victim.
And if you can’t keep your mouth shut and tell someone else about their family problems, you might make their situation worse and cause them more pain.
No matter how close you are to someone, don’t talk about their family problems. If you hear about them, forget it and don’t mention it again.
Not talking about someone else’s family problems shows respect and keeps things respectful for you too.
Don’t Give Unasked-For Advice About Someone Else’s Career
There are many paths in life. Everyone goes through times when they feel lost and don’t know which way to go.
When a friend asks you about their career, don’t just give them advice.
People have conflicting feelings about the careers they choose.
They might love something, but it might not have a future, or they might know they’ll have to go through a lot of challenges. They might want to make money, but they’re afraid of risks and losing money.
If a friend is lost in their career and asks you for help, you can analyze the pros and cons, but don’t make the decision for them. Don’t say, “If I were you, I would…”
Don’t tell them what to do, and don’t confidently tell them what’s right.
Everyone has their own path in life. You don’t know what’s going on in their mind or what they’re really thinking, so don’t step in and tell them what to do.
The best thing to do is to give them objective advice. Analyze things for them, but don’t make the decision.
Be there for them quietly, and let them calm down and listen to their gut.
Life has many possibilities. Not being interested in other people’s problems is a sign of good social skills.
“Knowing your limits is a sign of mature love. Relationships should respect the distance needed between people.”
When you’re around other people, you should know your limits. Just because you’re connected doesn’t mean they have to share everything with you.
Smart people don’t pry into their friends’ private lives. They know their limits and don’t interfere in their friends’ lives.
When you’re around other people, if you don’t know your limits and get too involved in their lives, they might be annoyed, and you might get into unnecessary trouble.
Don’t stick your nose in things that don’t concern you.
When you’re around other people, you need to know what to avoid. Even with your closest friends, smart people know not to cross lines. That’s how you keep relationships strong.