I’m torn about the value of the statement “Marriage is a woman’s second chance at life.”
I don’t agree with it because nowadays, women can earn their own living and take care of themselves. If the marriage doesn’t work out, they can just leave. How can it be compared to being stuck with a terrible original family?
But from another perspective, I have to acknowledge the truth in this statement.
For some women, this statement doesn’t hold water because they have strong personal abilities, receive support from their parents, and aren’t afraid of divorce.
However, for women in the opposite situation, if the marriage is unhappy, divorce can be very difficult.
Firstly, there’s the issue of children.
If a woman lacks strong personal abilities and can’t even take care of herself after divorce, and her parents aren’t reliable, it’s almost impossible to gain custody of the children. How many women can bear to give up their children?
Secondly, there’s the pressure from public opinion.
The woman’s family may not support divorce, fearing that it will bring shame to the family. They might even use the relationship between parents and children to threaten the woman.
Thirdly, there’s the economic pressure.
A woman who has never worked and has been dependent on her husband for a long time may find it difficult to support herself after divorce. Even if she finds a job as a servant, her quality of life will greatly decrease.
Moreover, women who haven’t worked for a long time often have a lazy mindset, lack social experience, and are used to being taken care of. Suddenly, they have to face high-intensity work and economic pressure, which many people are unwilling to accept. They would rather maintain the marriage, no matter how miserable it is.
Since marriage is so important for women, choosing the right partner is crucial. So, what kind of men should women avoid marrying?
Men with terrible tempers.
Men with terrible tempers are often those who won’t amount to anything. They have strong male chauvinistic thoughts, believing they are the center of the family, and everyone should obey them.
These men often bring their bad mood home and take it out on their family. They don’t care about their family’s feelings and think it’s only natural for their family to endure their bad temper.
What’s even more frightening is that these men may have violent tendencies, using verbal and physical violence to vent their emotions.
Men who always listen to their parents.
These men are used to being protected by their parents and listening to their opinions. Even after marriage, they still think their wife should listen to their parents and do what they say.
If you marry such a man, when conflicts arise with his parents, you can’t rely on your partner to help you resolve the issue. He might even take his parents’ side, treating you like an outsider.
Men who are too timid and lack responsibility.
While “timid men” aren’t necessarily bad, they can be if they lack a sense of responsibility. If a man is too timid, he might not be able to protect his family and may even make his wife take care of him.
Such men often avoid conflicts and problems, leaving their wives to handle everything. They might even think it’s okay to sacrifice their wives and children to maintain a peaceful relationship with their parents.
Living with such a man can be very frightening.
Men who are poor in spirit.
Although many women prioritize a man’s economic ability, I believe that a man with a strong sense of responsibility, a positive attitude towards life and work, and a willingness to strive can still be attractive to women.
What’s frightening is a man who is lazy, has no ambitions, and only knows how to enjoy life without making an effort.
Men who lack communication skills.
These men are not unwilling to communicate, but they don’t want to have in-depth conversations with their wives. When problems arise, they avoid discussing them and leave their wives to handle everything.
Such men often have a strong sense of male chauvinism, believing that their thoughts are superior and their wives’ opinions are irrelevant.
Men with poor character.
When someone shows off their love, or during weddings, or on anniversaries, people often say “it starts with appearance, but ends with character.” This shows that character is a crucial factor in choosing a partner.
However, some people are just bad apples, who like to gossip, cheat, or lie. Living with such a person can be very exhausting and may even lead to being criticized by others.
In conclusion, marriage is a long-term journey, and choosing the right partner is the first step towards happiness.