In life, there’s always debate about who should manage the money in a marriage. Many marriages start with love but end because of money.
Money is like a mirror in a marriage, showing people’s selfishness, greed, suspicion, and all sorts of ugly sides.
Good marriages have couples working together to earn money, manage money, and build a family. Marriages where people manage their own money often have arguments because of suspicion. The couple is pulling in different directions, and their lives become a mess.
How Many Couples Are Ruined by Selfishness?
“Poor couples are unhappy. Even the best feelings fade away because of everyday life’s little annoyances. And the mess in life is often caused by a few small pieces of silver.”
Many people hope to hold hands and grow old together, facing life’s ups and downs. They want to lean on each other in a cold world, warm each other, and walk together. But many couples fly away when things get tough. They only care about themselves and don’t care about their wife and kids.
One afternoon, a friend was helping her child with homework. Her husband went to cook noodles. After he was done, he only called the child to eat, not her. She walked into the kitchen and saw only two bowls on the table. Her husband’s bowl was full, but the child’s bowl only had half the noodles. She asked her husband why there were no noodles for her, and he said there were only two packages of noodles, and he cooked one and a half for himself and half a package for the child.
Seeing this, she was furious. But she was too hungry to get angry. Her son saw this and immediately took out a bowl and gave her some of his noodles. They shared half a bowl of noodles together. She decided to get a divorce.
She was the one who paid for all the meals at home. She also did all the housework, like washing clothes and mopping the floor.
But her husband only cared about eating and sleeping. He never helped cook a meal and just enjoyed things as they were.
One bowl of noodles made her see this man’s coldness and indifference. She realized that she couldn’t rely on him for life. His actions chilled her to the bone.
What Breaks a Marriage
It’s not poverty or hardship that breaks a marriage, but selfishness and indifference.
*Ten years to meet on a boat, a hundred years to sleep together.*
Two people who can walk hand-in-hand into the marriage hall have gone through many lifetimes to find each other. They build a nest together, have children, and enjoy family gatherings on every bright night. They live a warm and steady life in the ordinary smoke and fire of the world.
But many people use love as an excuse and shout slogans while being selfish and doing things that hurt their partners, making them feel cold and alone.
Harmonious Couples Talk Things Over and Manage Money Together
If love doesn’t come down to clothes, food, sleep, and counting money, it won’t last.
The best love will eventually be about everyday life. Money is essential for solving everyday life problems. Money reflects character. A man’s attitude towards using money in the family reflects how much he cares about his partner and family.
To love someone is not just about words. It needs to be shown in real actions. In a marriage, being willing to give money to your partner and make sure your material life is secure is the best way to protect each other.
Marriage is not just a romantic affair. It has to face many real problems. Eating, wearing, living, having children, and supporting parents all need money. If the economic conditions are good, couples can avoid worrying about daily life and arguing. They can live a relaxed life.
As the saying goes, a family without food is not anxious, but a clever woman can’t make bricks without straw. No matter how capable a woman is, she can’t run a family well without a stable economic foundation. Poor couples are always unhappy. Families that are always stuck in financial trouble always argue, have bad moods, and have bad luck.
Whoever Has the Ability Manages the Money
It doesn’t matter who manages the money in a family. What matters is who is best at managing it. The best way to manage money is to let the person who understands investment make investment decisions and let the careful person be responsible for household expenses. Only then can they work together to build a family and make the family’s finances even better.
If you don’t manage your money, your money won’t manage you. No matter how much money you have, if you don’t plan, it will be spent. No matter how little money you have, if you plan well, you can snowball it and turn it into more wealth.
Lisa’s husband earns a lot of money, but he gives his wife his salary every month. He thinks his wife married him when he had nothing and was willing to suffer with him. Now he has the ability, and he should repay his wife.
Lisa also knows that her husband doesn’t earn money easily, so she never spends money carelessly. She keeps track of every source of money and every expense, then gives it to her husband to look at. Her husband is very appreciative of this.
Their open and transparent finances mean they have no conflicts. They support and understand each other even more, and their marriage is very harmonious.
Money is the main contradiction in a family, but it’s also the source of family happiness.
Families that only care about spending money for their own enjoyment have no happiness. Families that manage and spend money together have no arguments or conflicts. Couples will think and work together, and their family life will be prosperous, full of happiness, and harmonious.
“Look at the world’s people, bustling and anxious, rushing about, all for a few pieces of silver.” Money is not everything in a marriage, but without money, it’s hard to take a single step. Good marriages are built on a solid economic foundation.
Money is a necessity of life. It allows us to live comfortably, save us in times of illness, and without it, even the most unbreakable feelings can become fragile, and even the most beautiful dreams can be shattered.
Love and money are the wings of an airplane. Without one, it can’t fly. Marriages with both love and money can last longer.
Couples are birds of the same forest. Together, they can break iron. Couples who work together can keep each other warm in difficult times, face challenges together, ride the wind and waves, hold onto the boat of life, and sail to the other shore.
People with money have confidence. Families with money are stable. May every marriage have love and money, be warm and last long.