Marriage is like a pot. You can use it to cook all kinds of food.
The ups and downs of marriage are closely related to the couple. You need to cook with care. And you need to work on your marriage.
Couples will face different problems over the years.
Maybe you have different personalities. Maybe you have different habits. Maybe you look at things differently. Maybe you disagree.
If you just try to force your partner to do what you want, your marriage will crack.
“Marriage is like living with your eyes half-open. No one is perfect. If you look too closely, you’ll find flaws in everyone, even God.”
Bad communication can easily destroy a marriage. It can make you go your separate ways.
If you do these things, your marriage is more likely to last.
Communication Rules: Focus on Solving Problems
Communication in a marriage is like a funnel. Good communication filters out disagreements, unhappiness, and pain.
Good communication can solve most marriage problems.
If you want to share your ideas, communication is key. If you don’t communicate well, love will leak out of the funnel.
If you have a problem, and you don’t talk about it, or if you get angry when you talk about it, you’ll just make things worse.
If you can’t talk calmly, try a different time or a different place. Don’t get angry. Try to solve the problem gently.
Remember: the goal of communication is to solve problems. Effective communication solves problems.
Happy couples who never fight know how to communicate effectively.
Effective communication means letting your partner share their thoughts and feelings.
Then consider both of your views. Think about the good and bad of each idea. Find a solution.
Couples who stay together for life don’t fight. They don’t get upset easily. They stay calm. They avoid hurting each other. They focus on the problem, not the person. They solve the problem.
Relationship Rules: Change Your Perspective
When you’re in love, you don’t see your partner’s flaws. But once you’re married, you see their flaws all the time.
When you’re dating, you think your partner is perfect, even when they’re sleeping.
Once you’re married, you see their flaws and you’re disappointed.
If you only see your partner’s mistakes, you’ll make them feel worthless.
If you always put them down, they’ll lose confidence in your marriage.
When you’re in love, you accept your partner’s flaws, even if you see them.
When you’re disappointed, change your perspective. Find something to admire about them.
In marriage, always look for the good in your partner.
Let your partner see that you admire and support each other. That’s what makes marriage so great.
Respect Rules: Accept Each Other’s Values
Respect is like the roof of your marriage. It gives you a place to connect. It keeps you safe from the storms. You can hug each other. You can stay warm.
Couples who stay together for life support each other’s values. They are accepting and tolerant. They love each other more. They are happier.
Even if you love each other very much, you will always have different values. You will have different strengths. You will have different tastes and goals.
Maybe he loves sports. He’ll travel far to watch a game. He’ll spend a lot of time and money. He just wants to feel the energy of the game.
Maybe she loves clothes. Even if her closet is full, she always thinks she doesn’t have enough clothes.
Maybe he doesn’t care about quality. He just wants something that works. Maybe she wants things to be comfortable and healthy. She chooses things based on quality.
Couples who love each other try to understand each other’s values. They give each other freedom. They give each other respect.
Try each other’s lifestyles. That’s the first step to accepting and respecting each other.
If one person wants a lot out of life, respect the other person’s simpler lifestyle. If someone lives a simple life, try living a high-quality life.
Respect each other’s habits. Accept each other’s values. That will make your marriage happier.
“Every marriage has its challenges. But if you’re already in it, you need to think about how to make it work. Don’t just focus on the bad things and leave. You need to build a life together.”
A good marriage is built over time. As a couple, you need to communicate and respect each other.
Couples who stay together for life listen to each other.
They point out each other’s mistakes. They compromise. They don’t fight.
They find each other’s good qualities. They respect each other’s habits. They accept and adapt to each other.
They compromise. They make sacrifices. They give each other space.
Love that lasts takes work. Love grows through respect in the little details of marriage. Show your partner that you care. Express your love. Create love.