There’s a question that keeps women puzzled:
Do men who cheat and betray their families really not know that their actions will hurt their wives and families?
The answer from psychology is heartbreaking:
These men not only know, but before they cheat and betray, they’ve already made a judgment and prepared themselves mentally.
In real life, men who have cheated admit that they know certain actions are playing with fire. They know deep down, and even when they’re doing those things, they’re already thinking about cheating.
Being Flirty with Women Outside of Marriage
Zack, a master of the dating game, starts every extramarital affair with flirty talk.
But flirting isn’t being explicit. Zack always knows the right amount of suggestive language.
He’ll start by talking about work, then slowly move to life, and then start praising the woman’s kindness and consideration. He’ll complain about his marriage and vent to the woman outside of marriage.
He’ll say things like, “My wife and I haven’t had feelings for each other for a long time, but she can’t leave me, so she just has to bear the pain.”
“My wife is bossy and domineering, not gentle or considerate. She’s not feminine, doesn’t dress up, doesn’t strive for anything, and she and I can’t sync up physically or mentally.”
After winning the woman’s sympathy and getting her to care, he’ll slowly steer the conversation towards intimate topics, getting more private and suggestive as they talk.
Zack uses this routine over and over, and it always works.
No woman can resist compliments and appreciation from the opposite sex, especially middle-aged women. Their marriages are boring and dull, like stagnant water. Compliments and appreciation from someone outside of their marriage will make women daydream.
But in fact, a married man’s compliments and appreciation are always hiding deeper meanings and desires. He’s using this suggestive language to test a woman’s boundaries.
Once a woman doesn’t refuse, or even shows happiness, care, and sympathy, the man will immediately move to the next step—physical action.
Caring and Sharing Everything
There are two true sayings about relationships between men and women:
Good love is when you choose one person and want to give them all your good things. It’s always clear love, sincere liking, and blatant favoritism.
Sharing is the greatest romance.
True love is like that, and extramarital affairs with bad intentions will wear the same coat.
A married man who has a target outside of his marriage will definitely show these two things clearly.
He’ll greet her in the morning and ask how she’s doing at night. He’ll bring an umbrella when it rains and tell her to dress warmly when it’s cold. He’ll be incredibly caring for the woman outside of marriage.
He’ll share his daily life with her, even a joke, a funny story, or a regular meal.
When the woman outside of marriage asks for something, or needs his help, he’ll immediately respond and satisfy her.
He and the woman outside of marriage might not have a physical relationship, but his words and actions, everything he does, shows the woman outside of marriage intimacy and closeness.
And the woman outside of marriage often gets lost in this intimacy and closeness, falling into the married man’s trap.
David, a man who’s very shrewd with money, used this worthless care and sharing to win over the woman outside of marriage.
Every morning, as soon as he opened his eyes, he’d send her a good morning text.
Every night, he’d share his day with her—the lunch he had in the cafeteria, the wildflowers he saw on the road, the clouds he saw on the way home from work.
If the woman needed help with work or life, David would immediately lend a hand. He helped her fix her computer, edit documents, change the batteries in her gas stove, even delivered an umbrella and went for a run with her.
Like a gentle spring rain, David used this cheap care and attention to finally win the woman’s love.
Women have one view of marriage; men have a thousand and one.
Men who cheat and betray their families actually know they’re playing with fire and hurting people, even before they take the first step.
But human greed and selfishness will make them choose to continue cheating.
It’s just that all of fate’s gifts come with a price tag.
When the truth comes out, even if they don’t lose their families, they lose a woman’s heart.
Money is easy to find, but a true heart is rare. Without his wife’s love, he’ll just be a lonely man.