Love Can Be Managed.
You think you love him, and the more you imply, the more you’ll find his countless lovely sides. You think he’s annoying, and soon you’ll find 108 flaws in him. Once this filter is set, you’ll understand him in a certain way, and never underestimate your own biases.
Fights can happen in love, and dates can be imperfect. You can’t guess what the other person is thinking, and you may not understand why they made that decision. Communication is key to getting the other person to open up, rather than becoming defensive.
Damaged relationships can be repaired, but not to their original state. It’s about moving to a higher level. Different personalities aren’t an excuse to refuse to understand each other. The right person isn’t destined; it’s about how you treat that person, and the relationship you have.
You only accept the biases you’re willing to believe. Every perspective has survivorship bias.
A conversation has no right or wrong; it’s about whether it sparks your awareness. That sentence that made you cry is just a summary of a part of your life.
When you want to give up on someone, don’t summarize it with one sentence, saying “let’s just cut our losses.”
Ask yourself, can you overcome the difficulties and challenges with someone else? No relationship is instant; it’s about accumulating experiences, solving conflicts, and getting tired, exhausted, and deeply in love—it’s all normal.
Giving up is comfortable, escaping is comfortable, and not facing the issue is even more comfortable. Don’t talk about love; it’s just nonsense.
Is 520 magical? We like to say 520 means “I love you.” That’s the meaning we assign to it.
The meaning is ceremonial, and it’s a reward for our efforts. So, how a relationship begins and ends, whether it has meaning to you, is a personal definition. You think it’s important, but to the other person, it might just be a normal day.
So, romanticizing past memories is a way to love, and to protect love. You give yourself hints, and you manage your love in memories. You have the right to choose to be happy or sad, so what memories do you want to leave behind?
What’s remembered, what’s left behind, is called a memory. What’s stored on phones, hard drives, and U-disks is called data. Data can remind you of a past moment, but what’s remembered is eternal.
Meet in Person More Often, Make Video Calls Instead of Texting, and Hold Hands Instead of Walking Side by Side.
Emotional matters are simple to talk about, but shared experiences are more important than shared stories. The more you understand each other, the more unspoken agreements you’ll have. Sometimes, a single glance is enough, because your eyes have exchanged countless times. You see the sour and spicy fish in each other’s eyes, and the stars that shine in each other’s eyes.
When comfort exceeds consolation, when trust opens up vulnerability, and when support comes before understanding, eating together, walking together, and talking together—even if it doesn’t leave a memorable moment, being together gives you great joy.
We all know, a hug is greater than a warm message. Even 520 words can’t carry as much energy as a hug. A hug transmits 520T of information.
Thoughts Can Truly Suggest, but Bodily Feelings Don’t Lie.
If you’re willing to kiss someone, take the initiative to kiss them, and that person will kiss you back even sweeter. This tangible sense of security is something language can’t promise. So, sometimes we feel like love is disappearing, but it’s actually our bodily feelings that are disappearing.
When you’re with someone, and you can’t feel the love signal, your body doesn’t respond with excitement, and your heart doesn’t flutter. Gradually, you lose interest in that person. Love is a strange feeling, and you can learn to get energy from it.
You can’t forget the feeling of your last kiss.
When You Think About What Love Is, Recall the Details of Your Past Love, and the Feeling of Mutual Understanding Will Increase Your Current Love.
Maybe it happens on the subway during rush hour, and you see a young couple whispering to each other, laughing, and you suddenly remember the details of your own love. Then, you deliberately prepare a surprise for your partner that day.
It’s not about envying the young couple’s sweet love, but rather, regretting that you’ve neglected love’s moments, and love has been hiding, waiting for you to find it.
We think we’re great, always trying to manage love, but in the end, we realize that the only thing we can do is to feel love. When we’re willing to do more lovely things, we’ll feel more love.