There’s a song lyric that goes: “I’ll always protect you, and you’ll never have to wander alone again.”
Everyone wants to find their soulmate, but many people miss their chance because of poor communication skills.
Sometimes, a simple conversation can spark a romantic connection, and two people can become deeply infatuated with each other.
Mastering the following 7 techniques in conversation can make the opposite sex 100% like you and fall deeply in love with you.
Listening
Have you ever encountered a situation where you’re too busy talking about yourself and forgot to listen to others?
We often forget to appreciate others’ beauty and focus on our own desires.
Listening is a form of wisdom. Asking questions and listening carefully can bring two people closer and make the other person feel warm and appreciated inside.
For example, Lisa, an art-loving girl, excitedly shared her experience at an art exhibition with her friend Allen.
Allen, a good listener, patiently listened to Lisa and asked relevant questions, encouraging her to share more details.
This kind of conversation made Lisa feel understood, accepted, loved, and respected. It not only brought the two closer but also made Lisa like Allen more.
Sharing
When you stand still, waiting for love, it’s already passing you by.
Friends can have common interests, and so can your loved one. So, discover the common interests and chat about topics that interest the other person.
The process of chatting is also a emotional interview. Common interests will make the other person rely on you more and like you more, even if it’s not something they usually like.
Appreciation
Sincere appreciation is more powerful than insincere flattery.
French sculptor Rodin once said, “Life is not lacking in beauty, but in the eyes that discover beauty.” When facing someone you like, don’t just flatter; instead, discover their strengths and appreciate them sincerely.
When appreciating someone, be specific. For example, instead of just saying a girl looks beautiful, compliment her on her outfit and hairstyle.
Details determine success. Observing carefully can help you find something worth appreciating. For example, if she buys you a cup of milk tea, you can compare it to the one you bought and tell her that hers is better.
This kind of conversation explicitly expresses your liking for the girl and gives her a sense of intimacy, increasing her good feelings towards you.
Caring
Sincere care is like sunshine, warming every life.
For example, if a girl says she’s sick, try to visit her as soon as possible and help her with something, even if it’s just a small task. Accompanying her is the most romantic confession.
On the other hand, insincere concern can make the other person feel disgusted. Asking someone to “drink more water” or “rest more” can really lower their impression of you.
Caring for someone also requires finding a suitable degree. It’s not necessary to care about everything, which can make the other person feel pressured and want to escape.
Confidence
A guy likes a girl not because she’s perfect, but because of her unique strengths.
So, girls don’t need to feel inferior because of their appearance or lack of talent. Of course, don’t be overly confident, thinking you’re perfect.
A person’s confidence comes from within and cannot be hidden.
To maintain confidence, first, have a clear understanding of yourself, then express yourself confidently, and finally, dress neatly to leave a good impression.
Humor
Humor is a kind of wisdom. Cultivating your sense of humor can make the opposite sex quickly warm up to you.
When facing the opposite sex, if you don’t know how to relieve tension, try self-deprecation.
Self-deprecation is advanced humor, which increases your charm. However, be mindful of the degree.
The best state of humor is: I understand your laughter, and you understand my humor.
Physical Contact
Scientific research shows that moderate physical contact can stimulate the release of oxytocin in the brain, a hormone that promotes trust and intimacy. When people experience physical contact, they feel more relaxed, secure, and comfortable.
For example, when you first meet, a gentlemanly handshake can make a good impression. When she’s carrying a box, you can help her without saying a word, and the physical contact will make her feel a sense of warmth.
In general, moderate physical contact can increase mutual affection, but it should be done when both parties feel comfortable and willing, following the principle of moderation.