In emotional relationships, the topic of money is unavoidable, even if we don’t talk about it openly, we still think about it secretly.
So, in intimate relationships, should we talk openly about money or not?
The One Who Truly Loves You Won’t Avoid Talking About Money with You
No money, no matter how talented or handsome you are, what’s the point? No money, how can you enjoy romance? No money, your loved one is just a money-lover, and money comes first, so why bother about me?
At first, it sounds harsh, but think about it carefully, can a relationship last long if we don’t talk openly about money?
In intimate relationships, many people are shy about discussing money, feeling that mixing love and money is tacky, and once we bring up money, the romance is gone.
But it’s precisely because of this shame that many women fall prey to “scumbags” who don’t spend a dime, don’t show any emotional investment, and still manage to win them over.
Money is a vulgar thing, but it can reveal a person’s true nature.
For example, some men never initiate discussions about money with women, and when they do, they accuse women of being materialistic, even trying to haggle over the price of a suitable gift; while others take the initiative to discuss money with women, even offering to give them money and preparing gifts in advance.
When a woman visits her boyfriend’s family for the first time, she usually receives a red envelope with money, which can be big or small. A large amount doesn’t necessarily mean the family is very satisfied with her, but a small amount definitely shows they don’t care about her.
Such a family will continue to cause trouble in the future.
The issue of money is not just about the money itself, but more about the person behind the money, their values, character, and sense of responsibility….
What affects the quality of a marriage more than economic foundation is love.
A man who truly loves you will initiate discussions about money with you because he understands that money is a means to give you a better life.
Only a man who doesn’t love you will let you initiate the conversation, so he can stand on the moral high ground, accuse you of being materialistic, and achieve his own goals.
Love is not just about money, but it needs a financial foundation.
Moreover, a woman who doesn’t want a house, a car, or money, wants something that a man may not be able to give, because what she wants is the man’s wholehearted, unconditional love.
Any Relationship That Collapses When Money Is Discussed Isn’t a True Relationship
It’s often said that talking about money hurts relationships, but in fact, only relationships that aren’t genuine or loving are hurt by discussing money.
So, money is also a reason why many extramarital affairs end.
Allison met a man named Seasoned Daddy while dancing in the square. She felt truly loved and cared for by him. Seasoned Daddy was very humorous and often made Li laugh, unlike her husband, who only knew how to criticize her.
At first, Allison just considered Seasoned Daddy a friend, but as time passed, Allison became more and more dependent on him, slowly crossing the moral boundary.
The two of them secretly started an extramarital affair, using exercise as an excuse to meet in the park in the morning and holding hands while dancing in the evening.
During this time, Allison often felt like she had returned to her younger days, without a care in the world. But as time went on, Allison became increasingly dissatisfied with her current relationship, even thinking of divorcing and being with Seasoned Daddy.
So, Allison decided to test him. One day, while walking, Allison intentionally led Seasoned Daddy to a jewelry store, expressing her liking for a gold necklace, hoping he would buy it for her.
Allison knew Seasoned Daddy’s financial capabilities, and buying a gold necklace was no problem. But he said, “My money is all controlled by my wife, I’ll buy it for you next time.”
At first, Allison believed him, but later, every time she looked for him, he was busy, and she finally realized that their relationship wasn’t even worth .
Later, Allison saw the same necklace while shopping elsewhere. Her husband saw it and said, “Do you like it? If you do, I’ll buy it for you.” And he paid for it.
At that moment, Allison knew who truly loved her.
This story isn’t about finding a man who’s willing to spend money on you, but about letting you see through a person and a relationship.
Money seems to destroy relationships and people, but in reality, it’s what reveals a person’s true nature.