The people who care about you will consider your feelings, and the ones who love you will share your joys and sorrows.
Some people may think you’re not good enough, while others may think you’re perfect.
Even the toughest guys in the world will turn into gentle souls when they meet the woman they love.
There’s no one who doesn’t know how to love or doesn’t understand love; it’s just that they don’t love enough or don’t know how to love.
The man who truly loves you will consider your feelings and emotions when speaking, not because he’s highly emotionally intelligent, but because he loves you deeply.
If a man really cares about you, he won’t say things that hurt you, because he can’t bear to see you sad.
He Won’t Criticize You
In relationships, focusing too much on winning or losing and attacking each other with a competitive attitude will only make the relationship go downhill.
As John Gottman said, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt are the four horsemen of the apocalypse that harm marital relationships.
My friend was preparing for a vacation with her husband and had made many plans, even researching online for various gadgets.
When it was time to pack, her husband looked at the pile of clothes and threw out half of them, making my friend unhappy.
She tried to explain the uses of each item, but her husband dismissed her opinions, not considering her feelings.
What was supposed to be a happy event turned into a fight.
Love is an art, and the men and women in it become the most romantic poets in the world.
Even the toughest guys will bow their heads in front of the woman they love, and the most stubborn men will choose to tolerate and compromise when facing the person they can’t afford to lose.
When facing the one they love, men will think twice before speaking, not because they’re not good at expressing themselves, but because they don’t want to hurt you.
He Won’t Blame You
In this world, using a magnifying glass to observe others’ shortcomings will never leave you empty-handed.
Who can be perfect in this world?
In college, my roommate started dating her long-admired boyfriend.
Girls in love all hope for sweet, exclusive time with their partner, but my roommate’s boyfriend still invited a bunch of friends to party all night.
My roommate was unhappy, but her boyfriend blamed her for being unreasonable and not understanding.
This kind of talk can lead to self-doubt, making you wonder if you’re not good enough.
In reality, two people in love will have disagreements, but how they express themselves is a skill.
Speaking well can solve problems and improve relationships; speaking poorly can lead to bad endings, no matter how good the initial intentions.
According to psychologists, direct communication about negative things in relationships can lead to a more positive trend over time.
That is, in life, you can talk about unpleasant things as long as you can discuss them calmly, which won’t damage the relationship but will even enhance the emotions.
He Won’t Hurt You with His Words
If a man truly cares about you, he will pay attention to your emotions and never want to hurt you.
When living together, even if he discovers your flaws, he will understand, respect, and accept them.
He won’t want to change you, because he loves you as you are, not the changed version of you, no matter how perfect that might be.
If he truly loves you, you can be any kind of woman.
If he doesn’t love you enough, you’ll need to become a perfect woman.
So, the man who truly loves you won’t even think of changing you, let alone hurt you with his words?
You are the unique treasure in his world, and no one can replace you.
In front of him, the loved woman can be herself freely, which is both indulgence and certainty.
You don’t need to worry about being criticized or hurt; safety and freedom are the colors of your life, and the security he gives you.
Actually, the underlying message of hurtful words is: “I’m not satisfied with you.”
This unequal, unloving relationship will only make the woman in it constantly self-doubt and deny herself.
The man who truly loves you will always care about you and cherish you, even when his emotions are bad, and will never hurt you with his words.
This is the highest expression of his love for you, and it’s the lifelong indulgence he gives you.