The feelings between people are never as noble and unbreakable as they are written in books. Reality always makes us see the world in a new light.
As we grow older, we slowly realize that not everyone is suitable to be a friend. Childhood playmates have their own thoughts and lives as they grow up.
Growing up gives everyone a long period of loneliness. Some people try to make new “friends” to escape loneliness, but those are not real friends. They use each other, keep each other company, and can share good times but not bad times.
Some people find themselves in loneliness, practicing again and again, and finally become the person they want to be.
In life, having friends or not having friends doesn’t really matter. Some people think being outgoing is an advantage and conveniently label being introverted as a disadvantage.
In fact, being introverted or extroverted is just a personality trait, there’s no difference in terms of being good or bad. What truly determines the height of one’s life is one’s thoughts. Outgoing people are better at expressing themselves, while introverted people are more focused on thinking.
Never underestimate someone who seems introverted. The one with no friends left is not simple.
The Independent Wanderer
Life requires us to be self-reliant. As time goes by, you’ll slowly discover that the only person you can truly rely on in this world is yourself.
So, don’t always want to depend on others. Working hard to improve your own abilities is the most practical thing to do. If a person can’t live independently, and depends on others for everything, then their life is likely to be out of their control.
Someone who can walk alone is definitely independent. A person can be without friends, but they cannot be without their own thoughts.
“Sweat your own sweat, eat your own food, do your own things, relying on heaven, relying on people, relying on ancestors is not a hero.”
The greatest awakening in life is independence. Relying on others is not a long-term solution. Only when you have the ability can you decide the direction of your life.
Having friends is good, you can support each other along the way. But those who can still make it to the end without relying on friends must have strong abilities.
The Refined Introvert
“I am a person who doesn’t like to talk. Sometimes I can talk a lot, but usually I’m just a quiet person.”
Introversion is almost the real personality of many people, especially those who have rich thoughts. They need a lot of time to think, so they rarely have time to chat.
If you look carefully, you’ll find that introverts in life are mostly refined. Because they have enough time and energy to be alone, they spend more time on their own lives, and thus have a refined slow life that others envy.
Life is like this, busy social people rarely have time to take care of their inner selves. Because they have to consider the needs of others, they inevitably have to compromise themselves.
Introverted people often live a high-quality life. They don’t care about face, nor are they good at showing off. In the eyes of others, they are ordinary, but only they know how they live. Introversion and self-deprecation are completely different.
The One Who Lives Freely
The one with no friends left usually lives a very free life. After seeing through the cold reality of the world, they will no longer do useless things. No one is born to love loneliness, but after experiencing all kinds of things, they discover that loneliness is more suitable for them.
Freedom might not be a person’s personality, but it’s definitely a person’s choice.
Freedom is a way of life. Everyone’s life is heavy, and thinking about how to face this burden is a fate that no one can escape. Try to be a little more free, don’t always dwell on the bad things.
The one with no friends left doesn’t necessarily have bad interpersonal relationships. The most likely reason is that they have chosen to live a free life.
Interpersonal relationships are not easy. It’s like a shackle, tightly binding people together. To break free from the shackles, you need not only enough courage and ability, but also a heart that can withstand loneliness.
Freedom is easy to say but hard to do. Those who can achieve freedom are not simple.
The True Self in Solitude
Solitude brings clarity. Life is inherently an empty existence. Everyone has different feelings in life, and the lives they experience are naturally different.
In solitude, everyone can clearly see themselves.
“All the brilliance that life has ever had will eventually need to be repaid with loneliness.”
When people are alone, they can encounter their true selves. When alone, the whole world is theirs, and a sense of security surrounds them.
“The best state of life is to reach a state of peace and tranquility in solitude. Solitude is the best practice for a person.”
In fact, by the end of life, one no longer needs friends. You see through society, you see through life, and you see through yourself.