Don’t Stand on Your Toes to Get Liked.
If someone likes you, they’ll bend their knees. But remember, bending once is polite, bending three times is a goodbye. In the end, you still need to stand tall, take a step forward, and even add a brick under your feet if needed.
In the past, people would talk about the romance of worshiping and idealizing their partners, expecting that dazzling person to suddenly notice them, making their hearts flutter. But then someone came along, squatted down, and asked, “Hey, kiddo, did you lose your candy too?”
At that moment, you suddenly realized that being gently looked at by someone can make you shine too.
A Relationship Isn’t Worth Losing Friendships Over.
When it comes, you add a pair of chopsticks; when it goes, you wave goodbye.
Let’s be casual; we often get hurt by the emotions we put too much hope into. It’s not that deep emotions can’t be trusted, but we put all our emotions into love, and that’s not a conscious choice. You’re afraid of losing it, so you react, and that’s called exhaustion.
The Sign of a Breakup Is Losing the Right to Speak in a Relationship.
Don’t underestimate those small decisions, like what to eat for dinner or where to go on a date. When your decisions get recognized by the other person, you feel super happy, and that recognition gives you a sense of existence. Happiness comes from those small decisions being respected.
Sharing might get interrupted, but when every small decision of yours gets denied, you’ll doubt your worth. Remember to stick to your decisions, and you have the right to make yourself happy. Peanut sauce isn’t the only choice for hot pot; you can use soy sauce, vinegar, and chili flakes, and that’s delicious too.
Don’t Test Your Love; If It Can’t Pass the Test, It’s Not Worth It.
This sentence seems contradictory. We believe that someone who can pass the test is reliable, but we never thought about why we need to put that person through a test. What did they experience in that test?
You know that using tests to prove love is not trustworthy. Passing the test just becomes a small flower in the tested person’s heart, and they’ll be put through even more tests.
Don’t Be Curious About Your Partner’s Ex.
Most of us aren’t lucky enough to meet the right person. Often, love is like a leftover porridge—the previous partner is the old rice, and the current one is the new rice. That sweet, soft, and delicious eight-treasures porridge is for warming the belly, not for blocking the heart.
You help them carry the things they’re willing to let go of, but that’s not polite.
The best way to delete unforgettable memories is to replace them with new ones. Human memory storage isn’t infinite; it only remembers what’s important. When someone decides to start a new relationship, they must be ready to say goodbye to the past.
The way to say goodbye is to welcome it wholeheartedly.
Understand the Difference Between Love and Marriage.
People put leftover food in the fridge, just like trying to use marriage to preserve love. What kind of feeling are we looking for?
A marriage without love is just finding a roommate, and you’ll mutually consume each other.
Love isn’t necessarily for marriage, but marriage is continuous love—loving that person again and again, loving their snoring, loving how they finish the leftovers, and loving their silly haircut because you know what they’ve been through in life.
He’s not that elegant young man anymore, and you’re not that lovely young girl, but you’re both trying to live your lives, and new love emerges.
Ask Yourself a Question: Is Your Best Friend Suitable as Your Lover?
When you think about the answer, you’ll know what suitability means.
We often underestimate suitability, thinking that finding a suitable partner for marriage is a compromise. But it’s not that easy to find someone suitable.
Look, tomatoes, eggs, and sugar aren’t a perfect match; it’s the one that’s making an effort to protect this relationship that activates the other side of the tomato’s loveliness.
Tomatoes like big bones, and that’s okay; they also like little lobsters, and that’s okay too. The key is to understand that a beautiful relationship isn’t something one person can hold up alone.
Liking is one-sided, but suitability is mutual. Liking is being moved, but suitability is being determined. Liking is watching you climb mountains, admiring and worshiping you, opening up a new world for me. Suitability is climbing the mountains you’ve climbed, crossing the rivers you’ve crossed, and understanding each other’s hardships.