Apple calls herself the “Queen of Hearts”. Even though she’s middle-aged, divorced and single for years, she never lacks suitors.
After going through a failed marriage and countless relationships that never went anywhere, Apple knows men’s little tricks.
She says women are always unhappy because they give their all but never get the response and respect they want.
People who love themselves are loved by others. If you love too much, you lose yourself, and you lose your charm.
To truly conquer a man, you must learn to say two words: “no.”
As a divorced single woman, Apple will politely refuse any man’s advances.
Even if the man is very well-off, Apple will give him a trial period.
Like the man she’s dating now.
He’s five years older than Apple, financially secure, and not middle-aged and overweight. He’s everything Apple wants, in terms of looks, personality, and success.
But Apple still said “no” openly and honestly: “We’re both looking for happiness, so we need to be careful. Let’s both observe each other for a few months and if we think it’s truly right, we’ll talk about the next step.”
The more Apple pulled back, the stronger the man’s desire to conquer became. This type of man with such a strong combination of qualities rarely met a woman who would casually reject him.
They went back and forth, pulling each other closer and further. The man invested a lot of time, energy, and thought, and after half a year, he slowly started to become part of Apple’s life.
After experiencing a hasty marriage, Apple knows too well the hidden desire to conquer in a man’s heart:
The more desperate you are to get married, the cheaper you seem to a man, and the less willing he is to invest time, energy, and thought in you.
A low-quality marriage is worse than a high-quality single life. Only when a woman doesn’t look down on herself will she not be looked down on by men.
When Apple met her ex-husband in her first marriage, she was 27 years old. She had just gone through a failed relationship and was desperate to get married, desperate for a family.
So when her ex-husband appeared, Apple didn’t hesitate and made a decision: it’s him.
He was good-looking, the same age, and didn’t have any obvious bad habits. Desperate to marry, Apple quickly fell for him.
The man hadn’t worked for long, didn’t have much savings, and his parents weren’t willing to support him financially. Considering his difficulties, Apple didn’t ask for a dowry, a house, or a car. She emptied her own pockets, took out a loan, and bought a small apartment. They got married, packed up a few things, and moved in.
In the first few years of their marriage, life was difficult. Especially the man, who hadn’t been allowed by his parents to take over the family business, had a very low income.
To save the man’s face, Apple pretended to be submissive in many things. She always told the man: “You decide, I’ll listen to you.”
Apple thought that by giving the man all the power, he would be touched by her understanding and tolerance.
But the opposite was true. The man not only didn’t appreciate her compromise and tolerance, but he thought she was indecisive and lacked personality. Gradually, he stopped discussing things with her, stopped asking for her thoughts and opinions.
Life became a mess. Not only were their values inconsistent, but the man also felt in his heart that Apple was “cheap.” She hadn’t asked for a house, a dowry, or done any investigation before marrying him. This kind of woman didn’t need to be cherished like a treasure.
Apple only learned these truths after the divorce. She never thought that her understanding and tolerance would be seen by the man as a synonym for “cheap.”
Marriage is essentially a game of power. Excessive compromise and concession will only lead to a man’s neglect and disrespect.
Only when you bravely express yourself, learn to refuse, learn to say “no,” will a man consider your thoughts and give you more care and attention.
“Many fortunes in the world, when you look back at the beginning, unravel the threads, and in the end, it’s all about planning.”
Love needs creativity and design, marriage needs management and operation. Those who don’t know how to manage and plan will have a hard time finding true happiness.