Women have only one view of marriage; men, on the other hand, have a thousand different views.
Women think marriage is a lifelong commitment between two people, while men are more interested in having their cake and eating it too.
When an extramarital affair becomes a problem, men will immediately cut their losses and choose the option that benefits them the most.
According to marriage and love surveys, 90% of men who cheat have no intention of getting a divorce. And after cheating, most men will quickly return to their families.
So, when a man wants to cut off an affair quickly, he will take the following actions.
Women, don’t be foolish; don’t be blinded by love.
Gradually Keep a Distance, No Longer Seeking Attention
After being in an affair for over a year, Beck started to distance himself.
Firstly, the novelty had worn off. The excitement and passion were gone, and Beck gradually lost interest in his mistress.
Secondly, his wife’s income had increased significantly, and her abilities had become more prominent. Beck feared that if his wife found out about the affair, she would leave him, taking her money and abilities with her. So, Beck started to gradually distance himself from his mistress.
He would see her less frequently, making excuses about being busy with work. The woman would eventually get tired and leave him.
You see, if a man doesn’t want to spend time with you, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he can’t walk away, it’s because he doesn’t want to. If he makes a lot of excuses, it’s because he doesn’t care about you.
When a man wants to cut off an affair, he will first create physical and emotional distance.
Sacrifice Benefits When Necessary
Don’t overestimate your relationship with anyone, and don’t underestimate the rule of self-interest.
Men who cheat are looking to gain more, to have their cake and eat it too. If their affair affects their marriage, they will sacrifice their mistress to protect their marriage.
They will quickly apologize to their wife, make promises, and cut off all contact with the mistress. If the mistress continues to bother them, they will team up with their wife to protect their marriage.
Payne immediately apologized to his wife and cut off all contact with his mistress after being caught. He thought it was an easy way to resolve the crisis and protect his marriage.
But when the mistress refused to give up, Payne quickly sided with his wife, sincerely seeking her help. His wife’s abilities were unmatched, and he had to ensure the stability of his family.
Did Payne successfully navigate the crisis? Yes, he did. After all, his wife and he were a team, and they had to defeat the outsider to protect their family’s interests.
As for the internal conflicts, that’s a story for another time. Although it’s a battle of who’s superior and who’s inferior, Payne’s humble attitude eventually led to his wife’s forgiveness.
Marriage is essentially a loyalty contract. Once trust is broken, the damage is done.
So, choosing the right person is key to a happy marriage.
When getting married, find someone with a strong moral compass. Some people may not be bad, but they lack a sense of shame. Such people can be problematic as partners. They may lie without shame, cheat without remorse, and be unclear about right and wrong. If someone can’t be restrained by a sense of morality, trouble is inevitable.
Remember, adults only select, they don’t cultivate. If you choose wrong, know when to cut your losses.