Infidelity is not just a mistake made by men.
They might try to shift the blame or downplay the harm they’ve caused to their wives. Or, they might still want to go back to their wives and continue their lives together.
They might try to deny that infidelity is a deliberate choice, making it seem like a momentary lapse.
But that’s not the truth.
When a man betrays his family, it’s not just a momentary impulse or a helpless situation.
He’s been preparing for these three things in his heart.
“Pre-meditated”
Adults don’t just act on impulse before they cheat.
They’ve gone through countless rehearsals in their minds, weighing the pros and cons.
When a man cheats, he’s not unaware of the harm he’s causing. He’s just not willing to “control” his desires.
Don’t be fooled into thinking that infidelity is just a momentary lapse.
It’s a deliberate choice, and it’s been planned out.
There’s no mutual exploration or understanding of each other’s boundaries. Who has the courage to just sleep with someone without any consideration?
We’re adults, and it’s not like we’re unaware of what we’re doing. Do we really need someone else to help us?
“Weighing the Costs”
When it comes to something as important as infidelity, men don’t take it lightly.
They’ll struggle with their conscience, weighing the costs of their actions. They’ll think about whether they can get away with it.
They’ll only do it if they think they can control the situation and negotiate with their wives.
It’s all about weighing the costs and benefits.
Their selfish desires will ultimately win out over their respect for their wives.
That’s when they’ll take the step and cheat.
“No Remorse”
A man who cheats doesn’t think his wife is important.
He won’t appreciate his wife’s efforts to take care of the family. He’ll just think it’s what she’s supposed to do.
A man who doesn’t know how to appreciate his wife will only think about his own interests.
To satisfy his own desires, he’ll hurt others, including his wife and family.
A man like that won’t have a change of heart or regret his actions.
He’s already prepared for the worst-case scenario.
He’s betting that his wife won’t find out, or that even if she does, she won’t leave him.
Women are often torn between waiting for their husbands to come back and fearing disappointment. They’re stuck between leaving and losing their family.
Women always have to make difficult choices, and their dignity is at stake. They’ve done nothing wrong, but they have to face the pain of being cheated on.
When women are forced to make a choice, they’re filled with anxiety and uncertainty. But men won’t have any sympathy.
They can’t understand the pain and helplessness women feel at this moment.
That’s why there’s no excuse for infidelity.