A person cheats, mostly because they seek new excitement and stimulation, driven by their vanity and ego.
At the beginning, it’s because they find something attractive in each other, which draws them together.
But in the end, when their affair is discovered, they still can’t break up, and it’s not because of love; it’s because of two things: satisfying their needs and benefiting from the relationship.
Satisfying Their Needs
The person they’re having an affair with might not be as good-looking or capable as you, but they have the ability to make men obsessed with them.
Because they understand men, know what they want, and can provide it to them.
This satisfaction comes from physical and emotional needs, such as recognition, admiration, gentleness, encouragement, and praise.
It gives them a sense of accomplishment, getting something they can’t get from you, and these are the things that have been suppressed for a long time and finally fulfilled.
For some men, sex is very important, and different men need different approaches.
Benefits of the Relationship
An affair is driven by emotions, maintained by emotions, and ended by benefits.
If they’re still entangled and can’t break up, it’s probably because there are still benefits to gain.
In a relationship, the most feared thing is talking about money, and if an affair continues even after being discovered and threatened by their partner, it’s because there’s something to gain.
An affair is formed for benefits, and without benefits, it will disperse.
These benefits might be money, power, status, or the ability to change their current situation, surpass their social class, or advance their career.
These complex relationships, once entangled, are hard to break free from.
It’s like being stuck in the mud, the more you struggle, the deeper you sink, and you might even drag your marriage down with you.
Learning to Manage Your Marriage
Actually, marriage is a course that everyone who enters it must take, with many lessons to learn.
Marriage isn’t just about love; it’s not about being loved or having good conditions, and it’s not just about one person making concessions to the other.
A long-lasting relationship is about mutual respect, mutual help, tolerance, and compromise, with each person wanting face, self-esteem, recognition, and praise.
If someone often looks down on another person, always giving them the cold shoulder, criticizing them in front of others, and tearing them down, it will create resentment and even avoidance.
On the other hand, those who are gentle, know how to communicate, provide emotional value, recognize, and maintain face will become a beacon of light in their life.
In other words, would you want to be with someone who always looks down on you, tears you down, and doesn’t give you face?
The principle is the same.
Everyone wants to be loved, seen, understood, and recognized.
In this world, there’s no free lunch, and there’s no eternal love that comes easily.
A long-lasting relationship requires effort and love to maintain.