There’s a funny saying about marriage that’s true and hurts:
You’ll regret marrying anyone, and they’ll cheat on you.
It might sound harsh, but it shows how greedy and selfish people can be.
This saying is especially true for men.
Marriage psychology says that if a guy cheats on you, it doesn’t matter if you’re good or beautiful or if you have a strong relationship. It depends on these three things:
How Low Their Morals Are
Every action comes from your thoughts. A guy’s values determine what he does. His morals determine how likely he is to cheat.
If a guy thinks cheating is normal and doesn’t even think it hurts his wife and kids, he’ll probably cheat 100% of the time.
Elmo is a guy like that. His dad and other family members cheated, including his own father. He grew up thinking cheating was like eating and sleeping, no big deal.
Even though he was nice to his wife, even though she was a great wife and mom, Elmo still cheated. He even thought it was cool.
Morals are your lowest limit. The lower a guy’s morals are, the lower his limit is.
How Big The Temptation Is
There’s a saying:
Guys don’t cheat because they haven’t been tempted enough; women don’t cheat because the cost of betrayal is too high.
Greed and selfishness can break down loyalty. If the chance is there and the temptation is big enough, guys won’t be able to resist cheating.
Leonce thought he was a good guy, but he almost messed up.
The woman was just too tempting.
She was a work partner who could help him with his career.
She was sweet, pretty, and made him feel good.
She was smart, knew how to act, didn’t want to be his wife, just wanted to have fun, and wouldn’t get in his way.
If Leonce hadn’t been moved to a different city for work for a year, they would have hooked up.
Looking at his friends who cheated, Leonce realized that if the temptation is big enough and the chance is there, guys won’t even think about being loyal.
The sun and people’s hearts are the only things you can’t look at directly.
Don’t test people. They can’t handle it, especially men.
How Much It Costs Them
People are naturally selfish and want to avoid problems. If the cost of cheating and betraying their family is high, guys will think twice.
But if a guy finds out he can cheat without paying any price, and maybe even get more benefits, he’ll cheat without a second thought.
Ben is a good example.
He was the main breadwinner in the family. His wife was weak and old-fashioned, and she always listened to him.
When Ben cheated the first time, his wife didn’t yell at him. Instead, she blamed the other woman. She went to the other woman’s house and made a huge scene. Then she tried to change herself and please Ben, trying to win him back from the other woman.
So, while the two women fought over Ben, he had the best time of his life. After that, he didn’t care about cheating anymore.
Don’t just fall in love, character is more important. Love is temporary, character is forever. When love fades, kindness keeps the relationship together.
In the end, marriage is about character. So, when you’re dating, make sure they have good character.
True love is a luxury. Believe in love, but believe in character even more.
Even if love fades, if they’re still a good person, you’ve found something special. Even if you only walk together for a little while, you’ll have less trouble in life.